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Holiness: a journey of love


We wondered about holiness this past week. Perhaps wondering is all we can hope to do — recognise the questions it raises rather than pronounce on definitive answers. I offered the following prayer/meditation as part of the process.

Holy God,
Holy God,
Holy God!
How can we begin to understand your holiness?
How can you in your holiness even think about us;
Let alone meet with us,
Or welcome us in our rags?

Is it because your holiness is not defined by right and wrong,
But by love?
Is it because love is what holiness is about?

For the religious teachers, holiness was defined
by laws kept and laws broken. We, too,
condemn those who break laws we like to keep.

But your holiness is steeped in love;
An outrageous, extravagant love.
The prodigal son is loved, welcomed, clothed and fed.
Will his life be transformed?
Will he become holy?
You don’t wait for the answers.
You simply pour out your love,
And invite us to journey with you.

We don’t know how holiness is displayed in heaven
But here, your holiness
Builds bridges and reaches across chasms.
Lepers, outcasts, the blind, the lame, the foolish,
Servants and masters, rich and poor,
Young and old; lost in a broken world.
None beyond your reach; no one turned away.

The adulterer, the self-righteous, the timid, the proud;
The scandalous prodigal and the self-righteous brother,
All loved with a passion, wept over, and embraced.
So, is holiness a journey of love rather than a destination?
A growing relationship rather than a set of rules?

To become holy as you are holy.
Does that mean we become holy as we offer
Your gift of love to a broken world?
As we reach out a hand to the lost,
Offer an embrace to the unlovely
A helping hand to the foolish?

Lord teach us to love as we have been loved;
Lead us on a journey into holiness.

For your love’s sake,
Amen

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Receiving the Kingdom: a prayer


Lord our God,
We cannot begin to understand your love.
You invite us into your kingdom,
You invite us into your home,
Not as servants, or even as guests,
But as children of the King.

As a loving parent
You welcome us with joy and delight,
Celebrating our return
As if we were the most precious jewel in your collection.

Is that the secret? Is that how your love works?
You treat us as a precious pearl
Because that’s how you see us;
That’s how you have made us?
You treat us as your children,
Because that’s how you love us
And why you made us?

Oh wonder of wonders!
That’s why we don’t understand.
You don’t celebrate perfection
As we have taught ourselves to do.
You don’t just celebrate endings, you celebrate beginnings;
You celebrate our smallest victories,
Each little Easter,
Each decision to repent and to believe,
Each step along the way.

Thank you.
Thank you for new beginnings;
Thank you for planting your kingdom in our lives;
For nurturing it in the darkness of our sin and suffering;
For giving us a new way to understand our world,
A new way to relate to ourselves and to our neighbours.

Grow your kingdom in us;
Grow our faith and our understanding;
Grow our love and our caring;
That we might, more and more, reflect the glory of the King.

In the name of Jesus,
Our Lord and Saviour and Friend.
Amen

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The Fatted Calf and the Missing Goat: The Prodigal Son (2)


The problem with the older brother of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-32) is that he’s just as ‘prodigal’, just as wasteful of his relationship with his father, as his younger brother is.

His one valid complaint, the one we secretly sympathise with while turning our noses up at him, is that the rebel son got the fatted calf.  He, the faithful older son, didn’t even get a goat for a party with his friends.  He might be nasty, he might be vindictive, but this does seem unfair.

There are two things to consider regarding the fatted calf and the absent goat.  The first lies in the nature of the older brother; what he says should be taken with a pinch of salt.  He is, after all, the complaining type.  He’s a stickler for protocol, for the way things should be done; for rightness rather than relationship.  He’s the sort (and you find him everywhere—there is a bit of him in most of us), he’s the sort who will make sure that everything is done just right, no matter what it takes, or how many people are hurt, put down, or trampled on in the process.  Complaining comes naturally because he has taught himself to look for what is wrong (and to point it out of course) rather than to celebrate what is right.  The older brother won’t celebrate until everything is right.

We are inclined to believe the older brother when he (or she) is in full swing, even when he is chastising us for what we have failed to do, or we have not done correctly, and we feel the guilt.  But the father Jesus tells us about in this story is fair.  That’s the point.  This is no bumbling old man playing favourites.  His delight is not in the younger brother alone, but in the family.  He is just as concerned for the older brother to draw close as he was for the younger brother.  That’s what his comment means: “My son, you are always with me, and all that I have is yours” (Luke 15:31).  While longing for the return of his younger son, the father has given himself to the older brother in love and appreciation.

Do you want a fatted calf, or do you want an on-going relationship in which you can grow and learn and be safe?  Most of us want a fatted calf every now and again, I guess, just like the prodigal longed for freedom and perceived thrills.  But the relationship is the real deal.  Of course the older brother would never ‘get’ that.  He can only see what he hasn’t got, and misses entirely, everything he does have.

The second thing to consider about the fatted calf is what it symbolises.  Some of you will remember (ok, you don’t have to own up), others may have heard about, the 70’s song by Tony Orlando and Dawn called “Tie a yellow ribbon round the old oak tree.”  The singer is an ex con, just out of prison; he doesn’t know if his wife (or lover) wants him back.  He asks her to tie a yellow ribbon round the oak tree that he would see from the bus on the way home, if she wants him back.  And, if he didn’t see one, he would just “stay on the bus/Forget about us/Put the blame on me….”  When he arrives he can’t bear to look but the other passengers cry out and he sees “a hundred yellow ribbons round the old oak tree.”  Corny perhaps, and maybe I’m just getting old and sentimental, or perhaps it speaks too closely to my own life, but that song still chokes me up.

The fatted calf was the father’s oak tree filled with yellow ribbons.  “How do I demonstrate forgiveness, welcome, reconciliation that goes way beyond a family putting up with a recalcitrant son because ‘it’s the right thing to do’?  What can I do so that next month, next year, when doubts begin to plague his mind, this son of mine will know for certain that he was not simply allowed home, he was welcomed and wanted?”  That’s what the fatted calf does.  And the father, shedding his dignity, running down the road, does it too; far better than any words could ever have done.

The older brother would miss all that because he has trained himself to see what is not there, what is wrong, what hasn’t been done; and to ignore and even despise, the glory that is.

To be brutally honest, the older brother is what we who are inside the church tend to be.  The challenge for us is to shed the comfort of our negativity and to practice looking beyond the façade, to the good and the kind and the beautiful within.  Because that is how Jesus most often touches our lives and we discover his generous, extravagant love, through our neighbours, our parents (with or without a fatted calf), and, dare I say it, even through that brat of a younger (or older) brother.

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Does God run? The Older Brother & the Prodigal’s Father


I could have killed that brother of mine—more than once.  Arrogant, proud, know-it-all.  Always out on the town; plenty of friends; popular and confident; but always selfish and never offering to help.  I’m the elder, but do you think that ever mattered to him?  Not a chance.  Always trying to tell me what to do; never listening to reason, never accepting anything I say, and never pulling his weight.

I tried telling Father but that didn’t help.  “Try to be patient with him,” Father would say.  “He has so many strengths you know, and so much to learn,” he’d tell me.

“You are both so different; we have to learn to accept our differences,” he said once.
“Nonsense!” I said.  “He should learn to take responsibility and show some respect.  When did he ever do any proper work around here?  He’s old enough to earn his keep.”

Father said, “He reminds me so much of your mother—so strong and free, yet so vulnerable.”
“Vulnerable?  What utter rubbish! He’s so arrogant; he expects everything to go his own way.  Mother was too soft on him,” I said.  “That’s the problem.”
“And so are you,” I thought to myself.

Had I been around that day; that unbelievable day when Father’s softness hit an all-time low…, had I been around that day, there would have been hell to pay.  As it was I told Father exactly what I thought.

Father had always spoken of dividing the farm between us two brothers.  “There’s no one else,” he would say.

Well a few years back it seems that little brother’s self-centred impatience got the better of him.  Apparently he told Father that he wanted to leave the farm and start out on his own.  He demanded (demanded, mind you); he demanded his share of the inheritance—can you believe it?  Father’s still alive and well.  What a cheek.

I had stayed in Jerusalem after the Passover, trying to arrange the sale of some of our cattle.  When I got home a week later, it was a done deal.  The house in Galilee, which belonged to Mother’s family, was always going to Mother’s pet.  The farm would be mine, and Father had enough cash to pay the little brat the difference.  But it left the farm with only a small working capital.  Heaven help us if there was a drought or any other catastrophe.  But why should that brat care?  He had what he wanted, and no one else matters in his little world.

“What about you?” I asked Father.  “What are you going to live on?”
“Oh,” he said.  “My needs are modest.  I have enough for myself.  Besides,” he added. “I’ll still be pulling my weight on the farm and earning my keep.  You don’t have to worry about me.”
“That’s not what I meant,” I said, really annoyed.  “That little brat didn’t stop for one moment to think about you and your needs.”

What really angered me was thinking about what he was going to do.  He’s the laziest person I know.  He hadn’t done an ounce of proper work his entire life.  He never finished what he started; got bored when anything took longer than five minutes.  In spite of Father’s glorified view, his only strengths were making friends (although I wouldn’t want his “friends” thank you very much) and spending money.  I reckon it’s the spending money that makes the friends.

Although I was very angry, as anyone in their right mind would be, I also thought, “Good riddance.  Now it’ll just be Father and me, and we can get on with life.  Father will see just how hard I work and, just maybe, he’ll begin to appreciate me.”

Huh!  You think?  Well that’s not how it worked out.  Father would go on and on asking what I thought my brother was doing and where he was and whether he was coping.  I just lost it one day: “Do you think that son of yours care one bit about what you are doing, and how you are coping, and whether you have enough to live on?  I don’t want to talk about him thank you very much.  He’s gone.  Good riddance.  We’ve got more than enough to keep us busy without having to worry about him.  I assure you, he’s not worrying about us!”  Father didn’t talk about him much after that.

We received news every now and again.  My hedonist brother seems to have drifted around (“from party to party and den of iniquity to den of iniquity,” as a friend of mine put it).  He was last seen living it up in Damascus.  Well, how long he thought his money would last without trying to replace it I have no idea.  No doubt he thought that gambling was a viable job.  And he’d soon find out that the so-called friends he lavished his money on, wouldn’t return the favour.

I had responsibility for the day-to-day running of the farm and Father would help out in the decision-making and in the busy seasons.  After a while he took to sitting on the front porch in the mornings with his coffee, staring into the distance.  Often he would stroll down the district road.

At first I thought he had decided to start easing up—perhaps taking time to contemplate the days when Mother was still alive.  But sometimes it seemed as if he was waiting for someone, expecting something to happen.  Then it dawned on me.  For goodness sake!  He’s wishing that brat would come back.  I just seethed.  As if we didn’t have enough trouble; why should he want that…that…?  He should be disowning him, not wishing him back.  And how does he think I would feel?  Oh no, he won’t have given any thought to me.

Well, we didn’t hear anything about my brother for some two or three years.  Then it happened.  I was on a neighbour’s farm when he slunk back home.  One of the servants told me about it later.

Father was apparently standing on the porch looking into the distance.  Suddenly he shouted, “He’s alive!  He’s here!”

Then he pulled up his robes and he literally ran down the road.  Ran, I tell you.  A venerable old man, shedding his last ounce of dignity, running down the road like some peasant child.  And for what?  To greet a passing king?  Oh, no; to welcome home, like some conquering hero, that worthless younger son of his.

Father made such a fuss of him.  You’d think he’d saved the nation, or at least the family honour.  Huh!  There wasn’t much honour in what he’d been up to, I can tell you that.

I didn’t know what was going on when I got back—the crowds, the noise.  I grabbed one of the servants and got all the sordid details.  Including, can you believe it, the fatted calf.  A gift for the most honoured of guests.  My friends and I would be lucky to get a runt from the flock for a special occasion, let alone the fatted calf.  Has that crazy old man finally taken leave of all his senses?

I asked him.  That night.  In the middle of the party.  I wasn’t going inside—Father came out to see me.  He actually wanted me to go in and celebrate with him: his dead son come back to life.  I nearly chocked.

“Oh great,” I said.  “And what about me?  I’ve been here all along, slaving my heart out.  You don’t throw any parties for me.  But that brat of yours, who owns nothing here, nothing I tell you, comes snivelling back because he’s got nowhere else to go, and you throw a party.  And tomorrow?  He’ll want his share of the inheritance all over again.  Over my dead body!”

Father seemed to think the brat still belonged here somehow, so I told him: “What that son of yours did was a sin. He’s dishonoured you, his father, and the memory of our beloved mother.  He’s lived a foul life in defiance of our holy God.  And I will not take part in any celebration; I will not defile myself in his presence.  And you’re not just celebrating; you’re condoning his evil ways.  How can you pray, or go to Synagogue when you’ve made yourself so unclean?”

“Do you think that this is how God wants us to act—to welcome sinners at their first cry for help?  Do you think God would go running down the road to welcome an undeserving sinner into his home, and forgive him just like that?  What sort of God would do that?”

From Luke 15 11-32

PRAYER

What sort of God would do these things?
Would welcome an underserving sinner home?
A sinner who has ignored him, rejected him, dishonoured him?
What sort of God would do that?

What sort of God would find a way, would pay the highest price,
To forgive, to heal, to reconcile?
What sort of God would do that?

A friend of sinners;
One who gathers up his robes and runs towards us;
One who lays down his life to befriend us;
One who says, “I have not come to judge the world but to be its saviour.”

One who brings good news to the poor;
Who proclaims freedom to captives,
And recovery of sight to the blind.
One who releases the oppressed, and comes to save God’s people.

Oh God, you do all of that for us, for our neighbours, for our world.
How can we receive your gift?
How can we thank you?
How can we give you praise?

A story told at Prestbury Methodist Church on 7 August 2011

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Free Love? Not likely!


Our local Chamber of Business sends out a daily news brief via email. It contains items of interest to local business, and financial indicators. (The latter is useful for keeping track of one’s millions stashed away in foreign currency, gold bars, and the like.) Included in the email is a daily inspirational quote. Last Thursday contained one by Brian G Jet, “The greatest possession we have costs nothing, it’s known as love.”

It sounded good and, in one sense, he’s quite right. Love is free. You cannot buy it or force it – ask any parent – it’s either freely given or not at all.

But at another level, it couldn’t be more wrong. Love is the costliest gift of all. True love, unconditional love, is beyond price. How can one put a price on a mother’s unrequited love for her child? What price the love of the prodigal son’s father? What price the Father’s love for us, pledging his all, committing himself fully to the frail and fickle creatures he made but set free? The cross was the price he paid but even God knows that he cannot buy love; he can only demonstrate it.

We too can only accept and acknowledge that love; we cannot pay for it. We can only receive it freely, revel in it, and learn to reflect it to those who need it, and perhaps even deserve it, more than we do.

All our training is focussed on paying our way. “It’s not fair,” is our cry when someone seems to get more than we do for less. You’re supposed to pay for what you get. But, with love, there is no such bargain, no such deal. We love because we have been loved. If our love is reflected back to us from those we love, beautiful friendships may blossom; if not, we love anyway because we have already been loved; we have already received far more than we could ever give.

Loving Creator, exuberant in the extravagance of your creation:
The beauty and colour; great landscapes and tiny flowers;
Multitudes of beasts, inhabiting land, sea and air,
Giants and miniatures alike.

Lord of all, whose name and nature is love,
You gave birth to all there is.
You revel in your creation but you love the particular.
You know each individual, uniquely created,
And you care what we make of our lives.

You’re the loving Parent
Sacrificing all for your children,
Delighting in our growth,
Mourning our pain,
Saddened by our loneliness.

You delight in our worship,
And rejoice when our lives reflect your glory.
Lord, whose name and nature is love,
Live your love through us.

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